But what I can’t stop thinking about is how this has become almost a cautionary tale about female emotion and female anger, and how it is seen and interpreted.

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Be afraid…

‘This is the way the world ends Not with a bang but a whimper.’ – T.S. Eliot. Do you have an apocalyptic vision of the future? An irrational fear that is just plausible enough to give you pause and make you wonder if you’ve worked out what will end humanity? Nuclear war, starvation, climate change, […]

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First trimester sex: Fatigue…

‘Pregnancy sucks the nightlife out of you.’ – Laurie Perez, The Power of Amie Martine Since deciding to document the sexuality of my pregnancy on this blog, I’d planned to write a blog post about sex during each of the different trimesters. Thankfully, the first trimester is over but, now that it’s time to write […]

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Consent to proceed…

‘Without ‘consent’ in any human interactions, there’s an ethical violation.’ – Henry Johnson Jr Being a sex blogger who is also a doctor can be quite an interesting place to have positioned myself. Although I’ve written a few posts about being a doctor, the crossover between my worlds has often felt a little contrived, almost […]

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New balls please…

‘Tennis taught me so many lessons in life.’ – Billie Jean King I’m a huge tennis fan, and I have been for years. I first went to Wimbledon in 2000 and have been every year since 2011. I rarely jump to anger as quickly as when someone tells me they don’t like Andy Murray because […]

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Baby making…

‘Do your duty as you see it, and damn the consequences.’ – George S. Patton Jr. It should be just a usual fuck. Nothing out of the ordinary; a usual, delicious and comforting early evening fuck. The sort of sex that is satisfying in its familiarity.  We know each other well enough to know which […]

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Who deserves sex?

‘Even if no salvation should come, I want to be worthy of it at every moment.’ – Franz Kafka I’ve realised that I’ve been a pretty poor sex blogger recently. I’ve not written much, I’ve not posted many photos and I’ve not really done much on Twitter except retweet and share cat photos (although that […]

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‘Those who do not move, do not notice their chains.’ – Rosa Luxemburg Feminism took some time to reveal itself to me. Being brought up in a white, middle class, Christian, conservative household, I was so protected by privilege that it took me surprisingly long to realise that feminism was still a fight that needed […]

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Yeah, actually…

CW: this is about non-consensual sex, coercion, rape and sexual assault so please take care of yourself if those are difficult subjects for you. I saw someone tweet something like “if what Aziz Ansari did was sexual assault then every woman I know has been sexually assaulted” and like yeah, actually. — Arnesa (@Rrrrnessa) January […]

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