Consent to proceed…

‘Without ‘consent’ in any human interactions, there’s an ethical violation.’ – Henry Johnson Jr Being a sex blogger who is also a doctor can be quite an interesting place to have positioned myself. Although I’ve written a few posts about being a doctor, the crossover between my worlds has often felt a little contrived, almost […]

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New balls please…

‘Tennis taught me so many lessons in life.’ – Billie Jean King I’m a huge tennis fan, and I have been for years. I first went to Wimbledon in 2000 and have been every year since 2011. I rarely jump to anger as quickly as when someone tells me they don’t like Andy Murray because […]

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Baby making…

‘Do your duty as you see it, and damn the consequences.’ – George S. Patton Jr. It should be just a usual fuck. Nothing out of the ordinary; a usual, delicious and comforting early evening fuck. The sort of sex that is satisfying in its familiarity.  We know each other well enough to know which […]

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Who deserves sex?

‘Even if no salvation should come, I want to be worthy of it at every moment.’ – Franz Kafka I’ve realised that I’ve been a pretty poor sex blogger recently. I’ve not written much, I’ve not posted many photos and I’ve not really done much on Twitter except retweet and share cat photos (although that […]

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‘Those who do not move, do not notice their chains.’ – Rosa Luxemburg Feminism took some time to reveal itself to me. Being brought up in a white, middle class, Christian, conservative household, I was so protected by privilege that it took me surprisingly long to realise that feminism was still a fight that needed […]

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Yeah, actually…

CW: this is about non-consensual sex, coercion, rape and sexual assault so please take care of yourself if those are difficult subjects for you. I saw someone tweet something like “if what Aziz Ansari did was sexual assault then every woman I know has been sexually assaulted” and like yeah, actually. — Arnesa (@Rrrrnessa) January […]

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Baby, baby…

‘There are so many things I want to do and see and write and talk about, and I just don’t understand how all my wild plans for the future can be married with a small thing that needs baths and sleep and feeds. And I’m not just scared because my body will change…but scared in […]

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Share Our Shit #1

‘Pull up a chair. Take a taste. Come join us. Life is so endlessly delicious.’ – Ruth Reichl I’ve decided to jump on a brilliant bandwagon started by ErosBlog and continued by Girl on the Net and other brilliant bloggers under the hashtag #SoSS (Share Our Shit Saturday) and share some of the great writing […]

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Me too…

‘Each of us is born with a box of matches inside us but we can’t strike them all by ourselves’ – Laura Esquivel, Like Water for Chocolate Oh my gosh, what an age we’re living through! I don’t think a day goes by without another revelation; another claim of sexual impropriety, another senior figure who […]

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I’m a feminist but…

‘What’s in a name? that which we call a rose By any other name would smell as sweet.’ – William Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet Have I told you lately how much I love podcasts? They really are becoming an obsession – entertaining and educational, what more could I want? One of my favourites is The […]

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